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Fighting Fair: The ONE Skill Essential To Your Career And Relationships

The research is absolutely clear. It's possible to predict which couples will last over time by looking at how they deal with conflict.

It makes no difference WHAT you argue about. What does make a difference is whether to have conflicted discussions in ways that damage the long term relationship OR hurt the other person.

Applies To Your Career, Too

While there isn't much research that looks at whether being better at disagreeing or "fighting" affects career success and advancement, it makes sense that it would.

When you handle disagreements in ways that poison your work relationships, you are much less likely to receive bonuses, promotions and additional responsibilities.

The reason is obvious:

If you cause more "hassle" in the workplace your value decreases in the minds of managers and colleagues.

Conclusion On Fighting Fair, Or Disagreeing Without Being Disagreeable

So, if you want to learn ONE skill set to help you with your personal and career goals, learn to fight fair, or to use other words, learn to disagree without becoming disagreeable.

Guides And Advice On Fighting Fairly

• 10 Rules for Friendly Fighting for Couples

  By MARIE HARTWELL-WALKER, ED.D. - This author uses a slightly different terminology -- "friendly fighting" rather than fighting fair, and that's an interesting and descriptive phrase. Ten tips, well explained. (Added: 27-Nov-2014 Hits: 735 )

• Fighting Fair to Resolve Conflict

  By University of Texas - Ten ground rules for fighting fair rounds out this little guide for fighting fair. You'll also find a cursory discussion of what causes conflict. (Added: 27-Nov-2014 Hits: 759 )

• Learn To Fight Fair Helpcard

  By Robert Bacal - No relationship is without fighting and arguing. What distinguishes relationships that work from those that don't is how the arguing is done. You can learn to fight fair, and actually reduce the negative effects of disagreement while reducing the chances of arguments in the future. Many of us haven't had a chance to learn fair fighting, and that brings us to our Learn To Fight Fair Helpcard, a fast way to learn what to do and not do -- and something you can share with others you tend to argue with; friends, family or co-workers. (Added: 3-Feb-2004 Hits: 3145 )

• 37 Rules to Fighting Fair

  By na - WOW. 37 rules is a lot, but many are excellent. Print it out and share with your family and friends. (Added: 27-Nov-2014 Hits: 755 )

• 16 Rules for Conflict Resolution (Fighting Fair)

  By NA - Very short guidelines for fighting fair. (Added: 6-Jan-2004 Hits: 1189 )

• Resolutions and the blame game

  By Peter G. Vajda - While not directly about conflict and fighting fair, this is a great article to stimulate your thinking about whether you blame others for misfortune, and thus create conflict with others. (Added: 3-Feb-2016 Hits: 560 )

• Negotiation Strategies Especially for Couples (Expert Advice)

  By Ellyn Bader - Many people are afraid of conflict because they do not know how to negotiate. This article explains why you should learn to negotiate with your partner and the skills you need to learn how to negotiate effectively. What follows is a clear step-by-step set of guidelines designed to improve your negotiation skills with your partner. (Added: 17-Mar-2006 Hits: 2224 )

• You and I Equal Respect: The Formula for Fair Fighting

  By Lynne Namka - Loads of great stuff here on fair fighting, but one that stands out is towards the end -- paying attention to and observing oneself during conflict situations. Without that, you will tend to get out of control. (Added: 27-Nov-2014 Hits: 590 )

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