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Welcome to the main page of our public service site - your free conflict help center
Welcome To The Free Conflict Help Center
Where ever people gather and interact there will be differences of opinion, conflict, disagreements, disputes and arguments. It's a normal part of human functioning. We all have a tendency to shy away from conflict or view it as a negative process. What's easy to forget is that conflict can be a negative thing, or it can be positive depending on the characteristics of the conflict, and how we manage and handle disputes and disagreements.
This public service site was built to help people improve their ability to manage conflict effectively once it starts, and to prevent unnecessary conflict and misguided conflict escalation
Features of This Conflict Site
- Read free articles, tips and hints about managing conflict, interpersonal disagreements, and arguments written by conflict author and consultant, Robert Bacal
- Find hundreds of free conflict management and resolution articles annotated and available on the Internet. This conflict material ranges from the abstract (models of conflict) to conflict style instruments you can take online, through to workplace violence. We've included hundreds of hints, tips and practical suggestions about how you can reduce the frequence and intensity and damage of conflict situations at home, and at work.
- Learn: We've produced an innovative book on preventing conflict, and some shorter tools called "helpcards" that will help you with anger management, thinking through conflict strategies and getting along with other people. They pertain both to conflict, and to communication, since communication is so often implicated in conflict situations. Free previews are available for all of these learning tools, and they are available in printed format or via electronic download.
- Subscribe free of charge to our Work911 newsletter that contains updates on new articles added to the site, and articles, tips and hints on all aspects of workplace success
Suggestion: There is a huge amount of conflict management, resolution material on this site. We suggest that you take your time and explore using the links in the top menu, and/or the drop down menus at the top.
The Conflict Library on this site contains over 1,000 articles, resources and tools to help you understand and manage conflict more effectively. To access all categories about conflict click here.
Newest Conflict Related Resources On This Site:
Japan: Differences in business culture between Japan and West %u2039 Japan Today: Japan News and DiscussionBy Andrew Miller - Summary of how business culture differs in Japan, compiled from the viewpoint of a number of business people from different countries. While you are there, read the comments to note the judgments, rather than attempts to understand. new (Added: 28-Nov-2014 Hits: 0
France: Doing Business in France EtiquetteBy na - Short synopsis/guide to doing business in Japan that will help you understand the culture a bit better. new (Added: 28-Nov-2014 Hits: 0
Japanese business culture and doing business in JapanBy Venture Japan - Multi part in depth series on doing business in Japan, including how meetings work, cultural stereotypes and realities and more. new (Added: 28-Nov-2014 Hits: 0
10 Rules for Friendly Fighting for CouplesBy MARIE HARTWELL-WALKER, ED.D. - This author uses a slightly different terminology -- "friendly fighting" rather than fighting fair, and that's an interesting and descriptive phrase. Ten tips, well explained. new (Added: 27-Nov-2014 Hits: 2
You and I Equal Respect: The Formula for Fair FightingBy Lynne Namka - Loads of great stuff here on fair fighting, but one that stands out is towards the end -- paying attention to and observing oneself during conflict situations. Without that, you will tend to get out of control. new (Added: 27-Nov-2014 Hits: 2
Fighting Fair to Resolve ConflictBy University of Texas - Ten ground rules for fighting fair rounds out this little guide for fighting fair. You'll also find a cursory discussion of what causes conflict. new (Added: 27-Nov-2014 Hits: 2
Fighting the Fair WayBy University of Buffalo - Great stuff from the University of Buffalo on what to do to fight fairly. Covers "getting ready" right through to "finishing". Read it. new (Added: 27-Nov-2014 Hits: 1
37 Rules to Fighting FairBy na - WOW. 37 rules is a lot, but many are excellent. Print it out and share with your family and friends. new (Added: 27-Nov-2014 Hits: 1
High conflict personality? Not so fastBy Tammi Lenski - Excellent critique of the work of B. Eddy that suggests that labelling people as having high conflict personalities is a poor practice. I agree. new (Added: 27-Nov-2014 Hits: 1
Splitting America - How Marital Conflict and Conflict In Politics Are AlikeBy Bill Eddy - Fascinating stuff that takes on the general negative tone and yelling that characterize politics in our modern world, and how there are similarities between that and certain kinds of marital conflicts. new (Added: 27-Nov-2014 Hits: 2
Managing Your Narcissistic BossBy Bill Eddy - Great suggestions on how to deal with a difficult boss, and in particular one that seems to be narcissistic. new (Added: 27-Nov-2014 Hits: 2
How To Give A BIFF Response(SM) In Online CommunicationBy Bill Eddy - Written before social media became popular but excellent tips on how to respond to conflict and attacks in written and social media text situations applying the author's BIFF model. new (Added: 27-Nov-2014 Hits: 56
Civility and the Surge Protector - High Conflict InstituteBy Bill Eddy - Gold in this. Takes on the trend for less civility, and how we've evolved to enjoy watching others in conflict. Great stuff by the person who coined the phrase "High conflict people" new (Added: 27-Nov-2014 Hits: 2