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The root causes of workplace conflict -- Surprise!

Sometimes workplace conflict isn't about the people but it's about the organization.

Conflict at Work: The Root Causes of Workplace Conflict Are Often Systemic
By Tammy Lenski, Ed.D

Editor's Summary: Almost always we attribute conflict at work to the people at work. However there are often other causes -- root causes of conflict that are part of the organizational culture and environment -- systemic factors. Here's a very brief discussion of root causes of workplace conflict.

When I'm asked to enter an organization and help people talk things out, I'm often asked to fix things like this:

Those two just can't get along. Would you see if you can help them get past their differences with one another. They don't seem to be very good communicators.

One of our senior teams is in a real rut since a new VP came on board nine months ago. I don't think they like him and they're acting out. We could really use some clearing the air.

We're trying to move the organization forward and we've got a few people who aren't good with change. Can you help move them forward?

I'm asked, essentially, to fix people. And it's rarely the flawed human that's the real problem. Conflict research reveals that the roots of unhealthy workplace conflict and increased organizational costs come most often from these systemic causes:

Lack of information. Even with email, newsletters, reports, and staff and company meetings, conflict arises from lack of information or knowledge in how to use it effectively. It no longer surprises me how frequently in workplace mediations I hear the phrase, “Why didn’t anybody give me that information before now?”

Skill deficits. Most of us were didn’t learn the “Fourth R” in school. We learned reading, writing and 'rithmetic, but were not formally educated in relationship. Building relational skills, such as those associated with effective negotiation, interpersonal communication, and collaborative problem solving increases employees’ ability to navigate conflict before it becomes destructive.

Ineffective organizational systems. System problems can, and often do, masquerade as interpersonal conflicts. As I work with parties to peel back the layers of a conflict, it’s not uncommon to uncover ways the organization’s systems are pressing upon one or more of the individuals involved and directly influencing their behavior. These system problems may be invisible until the overt conflict begins. Ineffective conflict management systems. The informal system of organizational culture (as in the ways employees and leaders show through word and action that “this is how we deal with conflict here”) and formal intervention systems can have a profound influence on whether or not conflict unfolds in a healthy or destructive way. Poor conflict engagement skills in an organization's leaders often means poorly managed conflict throughout the system.

Misuse of ADR. While the increasing commitment to Alternative Dispute Resolution (ADR) in organizations is a positive step, it’s often use too late in a conflict, confuses mediation and arbitration, or imposes a process unhelpfully on an unwitting or ill-informed employee. Effective conflict resolution systems, even in very small organizations, create opportunities for conflict to be identified and addressed early and constructively. Effective processes should emphasize talking things out effectively early in the dispute, the use of mediation before grievances or litigation harden positions further, conflict resolution coaching for and by educated managers, and training that supports real behavior change.

Copyright © 2004 and 2006 by Tammy Lenski. All rights reserved.

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